TRUTH: THE BEST DISCIPLINE PLAN IS TO HAVE RULES AND CONSEQUENCES THAT ARE SIMILAR IN SEVERITY
I talk to so many new teachers who tell me that being mean and then lightening up later is the ONLY advice about classroom management that they got while in college. How terrible! This is one of the reasons why I think my book, Discipline Without Anger, can be so helpful. New teachers are just not getting the training they need when it comes to classroom management.
This traditional discipline advice is bad for a few reasons:
1) If you start mean, that means that you actually have to get meaner and meaner to be able to sustain the control you gain.
2) Having to be mean all the time is extremely stressful.
3) This usually takes acting, which means that you will not be able to truly be yourself.
4) Young people respond to anger and intimidation less and less these days.
5) Your students will not perform as well as they could if there is an atmosphere of teacher vs. student in the class.